How to teach a child to write letters?

Helping a child learn to write letters can feel like a battle between patience and biro nibs, especially when they insist that an upside-down “R” is perfectly acceptable. But teaching letter writing isn’t just about neat handwriting, it’s about helping children communicate clearly, build confidence, and understand how words can connect people.

So how do you teach letter writing in a way that actually sticks?

Let’s break it down.

Why letter writing still matters for children

In a digital-first world, you might wonder if letter writing is even relevant. But according to BBC Bitesize, writing letters teaches children how to structure ideas, use persuasive language, and consider their audience — all crucial literacy skills.

And beyond the classroom? A well-written letter can express gratitude, ask for help, apologise, or simply show someone they’re loved. These are powerful life skills, not just academic exercises.

Step-by-step: Teaching children to write letters

1. Start with reading real letters

Before putting pen to paper, let them see what letters actually look like. Read through birthday cards, thank-you notes, or even examples from children’s books. This helps them recognise tone, format, and purpose.

Try:

• “The Jolly Postman” by Janet and Allan Ahlberg (a brilliant, interactive example)

  
  

2. Explain the parts of a letter

Keep it simple. Show them how letters are made up of clear parts:

• Greeting (e.g., Dear Grandma)

• Opening line (why they’re writing)

• Body (what they want to say)

• Closing line (what they hope or feel)

• Sign-off (e.g., Love from Ella)

  
  

Use templates or examples to show how it flows, like a sandwich, opening and closing with the good stuff in the middle.

3. Let them write to someone they care about

Make it meaningful. A letter to a grandparent, teacher, friend or even the tooth fairy adds emotional connection. Children are more motivated when the writing feels real.

You could also try:

• Writing a letter to a character in a book

• Writing a thank-you letter after a birthday

• Writing a keepsake letter to a grandchild, but in reverse

  
  

4. Focus on ideas before spelling

It's tempting to correct every misspelling, but resist the red pen. Encourage them to get their ideas down first.

According to the National Literacy Trust, focusing too early on technical accuracy can knock their confidence and slow their progress. Once the content is there, then help with polishing it.

5. Use letter writing prompts

Sometimes they just need a little nudge. Try prompts like:

• “Tell your teacher something you’ve learned this week.”

• “Write a letter to someone you miss.”

• “Ask a famous person three questions.”

  
  

This takes the pressure off thinking up ideas from scratch.

6. Celebrate and share their writing

Stick it on the fridge. Post it to the recipient. Read it aloud together. Kids are far more likely to want to write again if their efforts are acknowledged and enjoyed.

Real-world example

A parent recently came to LetterLab looking for help with their child’s school homework, a character letter for court. The parent felt overwhelmed, not knowing where to start or how to make it appropriate. We guided them through a child-friendly version of what needed to be said, helping them create something thoughtful and age-appropriate.

The result? A confident, respectful letter that reflected their child’s voice and taught them how powerful words can be.

Final thoughts

Letter writing teaches far more than how to form a sentence. It builds empathy, reflection, and connection and those are things worth passing on. Whether it’s a scribbled “thank you” or a heartfelt message to a grandparent, every letter is a step toward better communication.

And if you’re feeling unsure about how to guide your child or just want to make sure what they write hits the mark. LetterLab is always here to help with expert support and personalised guidance.